Showing posts with label Pregnancy. Show all posts
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Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Getcha Big Girl Panties On

I have been shocked (and slightly embarrassed) by the new Georgia House Bill 954. Just jump over to this article, aptly titled "Georgia Lawmaker Compares Women to Cows and Pigs" and you'll probably be mortified, at the very least offended too. I was going to write an article about what is going on down here in the good 'ol South but I have this friend who knows WAY more about the facts so I asked her to write it down. Tiffany and I share the same view on this topic. However, if you do not agree with us I ask only that you respect our opinion. This is NOT an article supporting abortion, rather an article supporting a woman's right to her body.

 

Religion, Birth Control and Healthcare Reform: 
How the Republican Lie Hurts Women 
By: Tiffany Smith, Atlanta, GA March 12, 2012

Government takeover. “Obamacare”. Abortion. These are a few of the biggest “fears” and brightest taglines of the GOP. 

First of all, I fear a religious takeover far more than our government extending hate-crime protection to minorities and granting access to healthcare for 30 million uninsured Americans. For all the Tea Taliban rhetoric about the Constitution, you’d think they had perhaps read it. “The government shall make no law respecting any religion.” This was an important enough concept that the Founding Fathers wrote it into the document that our government would build upon until the end of time. To have freedom of religion also means to be free FROM religion. Don’t try to force your religious propaganda into our laws, because not everyone agrees with you. This should not be a difficult concept to understand. America was not designed as a theocratic nation. If you want something like that, you should look to a country that employs it and see how well it is working out; say, Iran for example, where the Morality Police (yes, real morality police) roam the streets informing girls if what they are wearing is inappropriate and what time they should go home. I feel confident saying that most American women would agree this is not the model they would like to follow.

Now let’s talk about freedom of speech, religion, birth control and “Obamacare” (aka the Affordable Care and Patient Protection Act, “ACPPA”). It was painfully obvious that the GOP began this railing against preventative health care for women on the argument of “free speech” and “freedom of religion,” but it slowly progressed into outlining their true argument – that women should not necessarily be afforded birth control coverage under their insurance plans. I want to make clear that the original law already exempted religious institutions from the rule. The original law stated that if a religious institution only provides faith-based services and employment, meaning that they only employ and serve people who are of the same faith, then they would be fully exempt from the requirement; however, if the religious institution employs people or serves the public REGARDLESS of their faith, then they must comply with the law. I think this is perfectly reasonable; if you do not discriminate in who you provide services to, then you should not be allowed to discriminate against what healthcare options your employees receive. Employers cannot pick and choose which laws they would like to follow. They say that “corporations are people too,” and citizens certainly cannot choose which laws they will follow and which ones they won’t. 

The most abhorrent thing I find about this ruckus is that it seems to be primarily debated by men. Republicans recently held a widely-criticized all-male panel to discuss women’s access to contraception. They excluded any women from discussing their opinions on how the republican religious doctrine might affect the healthcare that women are eligible to receive. When democrats allowed the young woman, whom republicans had turned away from their panel, to speak, she was instantly insulted and received a barrage of disparaging comments, most notably being called a “slut” and a “prostitute”. This is how we speak about our educated young women? 

One of the things I find so offensive is that the big flap over birth control comes from a bunch of men who have no problem collecting their free “preventative” Viagra, which is covered by their insurance programs. Pat Buchanan recently had the audacity to answer this question by stating that “Viagra has been deemed a medication.” What, and birth control isn’t?? So in other words, it is perfectly ok for men to get their rocks off, but women are the only ones who should pay for it. It seems to escape these men that birth control is not used merely to prevent pregnancy; it has other medical uses as well. Co-pays for birth control typically range from $20-$50 out of pocket expense per month. That’s pretty expensive for a self-supporting woman in today’s economy. 

Not only are women under siege for using common methods of contraception, which over 98% of women use at some time in their life, but we have “personhood” amendments popping up all across the country. It is coming up for the THIRD time in Colorado this year – it has already been voted down by voters in the state TWICE, but republicans just can’t seem to respect what the voters have said. There should be “double jeopardy” style bans on that kind of legislation – once it is voted down it ought not ever be brought back up again. Wording something slightly differently and forcing voters to vote on it over and over again is very misleading. So-called personhood amendments are designed to make a woman responsible for her fetus from the moment of conception – never mind women don’t even usually know they’re pregnant until a month later. This ideology could be interpreted to interfere with common birth control methods, and even potentially give rise to a woman being charged with murder for having a miscarriage (as was proposed by Bobby Franklin in Georgia, carrying a sentence of life in prison or death!). 

It is worth noting that those who vehemently claim to be “pro-life” are usually also pro-war and pro-death penalty. 

Then we have politicians like Rick Santorum who want to fully outlaw a woman’s right to electively terminate her pregnancy, and in the meantime those who want to pass laws to humiliate a woman as much as possible when she is faced with that difficult decision. Virginia Governor Bob McDonnell just signed into law the anti-abortion bill requiring 24-hour wait periods and pre-abortion ultrasounds – a medically unnecessary state-mandated procedure intruding into your doctor’s office (not to mention your loins). The original form of the (much-ridiculed) bill mandated a ‘transvaginal ultrasound’ – forcing said object into your body against your will, practically the equivalent of being raped by office equipment. It was later changed to an external ultrasound requirement only amid all the public backlash. This is the most obvious hypocrisy in the battle cry for “smaller government”. I’m guessing they mean ‘small enough to reach into your uterus.’ 

From the way republicans speak about it, I can only assume they think that women are out getting knocked up on purpose just for the joy of having an abortion. This is an utter fallacy and largely an attack against women by people who do not even own a uterus. Santorum says that “rape babies are gifts from God” and that raped women who become pregnant should just “make the best of it.” I think this is disgusting ideology, and I hope none of these idiots that support the same have a teenage daughter that is assaulted and becomes pregnant. The mere thought of forcing a young woman to bear a pregnancy as a result of a crime committed against her body is revolting at best, misogyny at worst. They have even proposed redefining rape to make it easier for men to hurt women. Under this proposition, a woman could not claim legal protection if she does not aggressively attempt to fight off her attacker, even if she must sustain injury to do so. Arkansas and Kansas are in the middle of passing legislation making it ok for a woman’s doctor to lie to her – yes, LIE to her! - if something is wrong with her baby, if in the doctor’s opinion it might make the woman/parents more likely to seek an abortion. I find this to be among the most disturbing legislation currently being proposed. If a woman can no longer trust her doctor, because the state has mandated what medical information she can or cannot receive about her own health and the health of her unborn child, the ethics governing the medical profession have become severely crippled. The lines of trust have already been breached by so-called “conscience” laws that allow pharmacists to turn women away from their prescribed medications if they have some religious objection to them. If you are a pharmacist or other medical professional who cannot objectively provide services to the public, then you are in the wrong profession. People depend on receiving comprehensive medical care; it is not in the public’s best interest to have certain individuals contesting access to such care based on their personal religious affiliations or beliefs. I mean, how upset would you be if you went to Chili’s and ordered your baby back ribs, only to have your Muslim or Rastafarian server tell you it would be “against his/her religion” to serve your order containing pork? You’d likely be baffled at first, but then you might get a little ticked off. After all, it isn’t the server who is eating the meal, right? And this is a very minor example. 

Of course, I also feel that politicians should also be held to that same standard of unbiased decision making. We are not a religious government, and for any politician to openly advocate for religious doctrine in our laws directly conflicts with our governing documents. Any politician who violates the respect for other religions (or nonreligious persons) should be removed from office if they obviously cannot remain impartial to the entire populace. Newt Gingrich made this point crystal clear when he told a gay man that if he wanted any representation in government that he should vote for President Obama. We need officials who are willing to represent all manner of peaceful lifestyles and religious choices, not leaders who openly discriminate against particular groups or members of society. If we allowed the majority to vote on the rights of the minority, the minority still would not have any rights. 

One of the main tenets that granted women the ability to progress in this country was the advent of allowing them to make their own reproductive choices. Gone are the days where we were nothing more than baby-making machines and uneducated housewives. Statistics show that women now outnumber men in having college degrees, and are moving closer towards being the breadwinners in the majority of American households. I imagine this evolution is greatly feared by the GOP, as educated women typically lean democratic. After all, it was progressive ideology that granted women the right to vote in the first place. 

I think the GOP is right to be fearful of women; we have the power to crush them. Women make up the largest part of the voting electorate, and I would argue that most women, regardless of their personal feelings, would ultimately not take away another woman’s authority to make such reproductive decisions on her own. This is our greatest strength as a collective group; we understand the gravity of such circumstances and that each woman must make her choices for herself –without the pendulum of a religious government swaying over her. The women who came before us certainly understood this, and it is up to today’s young women to make it clear that we will not allow the clock to be pushed backwards. We will not sit by and quietly wait for women to be stripped of their rights by religious dogma. We must voraciously stand against any attempt to place women at a lower socioeconomic standing than men, or to deprive women of equal protection and treatment under the law. We will not be forced into historical irrelevance. We will not waver and we will not compromise on our rights to access comprehensive, scientifically-sound medical care.

On a personal note, I certainly could not ever see myself getting an abortion. However, I would be mortified if under a circumstance I felt life threatening, either physically or emotionally, I were to be forbade by a religiously bias government. Personally, I think the government is the last source that should be allowed to dictate what I can and can not do with my body.

*Personally, I tend to swing Republican (VOTE RON PAUL!) but as with any major organization there are flaws... this being one of the most outlandish.

Sunday, March 11, 2012

Let's Talk About SEX


Actually, let's talk about intimacy. That's what I really want to understand more. I'm not sure if anyone will understand what I mean when I say I can easily have sex without being emotionally involved. Does that make me sound slutty? Or modern? Or like a douche bag dude? Ah well... either way, it's the truth. I've made it through 8 years of being sexually active without being particularly emotionally involved with whoever I was with... including a 5 year marriage. Sex was sex, man. Blame it on my mental super power to emotionally disassociated or the stint I spent as a pre-teen being abused, but it's just the way it is.

Until I met Brett. That's a whole 'nother story.

I went my entire first pregnancy without any desire. I was with my best friend and we had made a baby and we were satisfied. I mean in that way too... like for a year! But now I'm pregnant again but this time things are different. My relationship with my beau is much younger so the desire is naturally there but now we are incapable of connecting on a physical level. But I miss the intimacy that surrounded the act. I miss the before and the after... I mean like mad crazy miss it. I'm struggling to find a way to get near him despite our strict restrictions for baby's sake. We both seem to be at a loss, and I don't like the effect of the cause.

Any advice?

Friday, March 2, 2012

Chickadette v Modern Medicine... Again



I have found myself in this position twice now in my life. Should I dare a home birth or rely on the safety of modern medicine to deliver my child? I respect, and extremely admire, the women who are comfortable and capable of being at peace with home birth. I think it shows a strong sense of comfort and maturity to take on such a daunting task. As much as I wish I were like that, I tend to appreciate the advancements of modern medicine and most importantly, a woman's access to knowledge and her rights. Also, the Southern Belle in me cringes at the thought of having to deal with all that mess. *shivers*

I made a trip to my ob-gyn to see my mid-wife because after three days of shooting pains I began to get concerned that my cervix was opening. I was right, instincts seldom let me down. What I wasn't aware of were the contractions that were presenting themselves in ways I was unfamiliar with. I barely noticed them but they landed me in Room 102 for 2 days and 2 nights. My doctor's office works with two on call CNM's. One of which is completely supportive, and encouraging, of my all natural attempt (and previous success) at child birth. She delivered my other baby... au naturale... in a hospital. Yes! It's possible! The other has a tendency to rely on protocol and drugs. Of course, she was the nurse on call. It is a strict policy at my local hospital to prevent and discourage at all costs the delivery of a pre-term baby. The limit is 34 weeks. My timeline marks me 33 weeks. Within hours of being admitted, with only irregular "contractions" showing, it was brought to my attention that for precaution sake it was being suggested that I be given a triple dose of a drug called Brethine to 'relax the uterus'... basically stop the contractions. 

I immediately began asking questions. 

For one, I hadn't even been checked to see if my cervix was widening further. So perhaps these pains weren't labor but rather 'uteran discomfort' as one of the nurses kept suggesting. Second, the 33 week mark is at best, a lucky guess. The truth is, we have nearly a 4 week open window of when he was actually conceived. Third, I wasn't uncomfortable in the least and Declan was just as active and happy and showing no signs of distress what so ever on his little monitor. I have to admit, nearly 3 days of listening to his heartbeat made my heart swoon. 

I asked what the facts of and risks are to taking the medication. I was only going to be administered it because they were nervous about his lungs being under developed. The medicine wouldn't actually stop labor, just slow it down so they could transfer me. (Slow it down? Was it even going?) The most common side effects were the baby being born 'listless and unresponsive for some time' but generally they were 'ok'. Um, what the hell? I think my heart literally (insert Rob Lowe voice) skipped a beat. I asked for a minute and talked it over with Brett. I certainly didn't want my baby born and then immediately incubated because his little lungs are underdeveloped. However, I felt even more strongly against fighting nature and perhaps causing him more harm. When the nurse came back in she then told me the side effects for me but made sure I 'not worry' because there were more drugs they could administer to fight off those side effects. Sick cycle carousel for sure it sounded like to me!

The nurse returned to the phone to notify the on call midwife that I was not willing to take the Brethine. She then returned stating that they were going to check my cervix (Oh? Now?) and if I had made any change they were going to have to transfer me to another hospital more capable of delivering a pre-term baby. Ouch, is that my arm being twisted? I believe so. However, I am smart enough to know that I actually can refuse treatment. So, no contest. To me, standing my ground was an easy choice to make. I kept my system clean, which is what I strongly feel is best for us both, and all I have to 'suffer' is a 30 minutes ambulance ride (which, admittedly, seems a little exciting to my inner drama queen) and a different (probably nicer) hospital room? Done. Wouldn't you know it? They checked my cervix and found I'd only progressed half a centimeter and nothing was necessary? How 'bout that? I spent another night in bed and after another examination was sent home to wait it out. Drug free. I have 6 days until I can deliver locally. I don't mind in the least keeping my feet up for such a short amount of time!

It may seem like a simple win, but it's extremely daunting to be in an unfamiliar space with 'professionals' insisting on 'what's best' and reminding you how much more experience they have than you. Truth is, I'm actually a push over and easily manipulated. It's taken me years to learn that I find it easiest to keep my mouth shut, listen, respond with simple answers, and hold my ground. It also helps to have support. I am extremely blessed to have a banging support system.

On a funny note, here's a What I Wore post for you!


Gown: Courtesy of Hospital... oddly liberating
Socks: most comfy everrr


Friday, February 17, 2012

Baby Boy Wish List

Will's Father: Congratulations, Grace, we have a gift for you!
Grace: Oooh, a present? For me!?
Will's Father: Well, no, for the baby.
Grace: Ahhh. Well that's nice too.

I have been asked by my darling bff (Tambi Jeanne ----> click her button, Little Mrs. Sunshine) to put together a Wish List for my upcoming baby shower she is throwing for me. Yes, this is my second but the Etiquette Rules I have researched say that if it has been more than 3 years, is the first with this husband, or (my fave) because you just want to celebrate then it's totally okay.

Since I have had a little boy and my sisters have had several little boys I don't really need anything... 'cept new cloth diapers, bottles, and a breast pump! So I've put together a short list of things I want, that will make my life a bit easier I think. 

So my mom sent me a variety of cloth diapers when Aiden Gray was born and I found the easiest ones to use were the ones with velcro or the ones with snaps. My only disappointment was that they didn't really grow with him. After a few weeks, I couldn't use them anymore. Some made GREAT cloth rags for cleaning but most were donated to help a woman's shelter in Asia after the typhoon hit. I've been doing research and I want to go with these Thirsties diapers. They versatile and this design grows with the little tyke! 
Thirsties Duo Wrap
Thirsties Duo Wrap Snap Diaper Size One

I have used a breast pump before and I could not imagine life with out one. I had both an electric and a manual. I hated the electric one... the discomfort and the likeness to being milked like a cow were enough to make me dread it! So yes, manual it is!
Medela Harmony Manual Breast Pump
Medela Harmony Manual Pump

I could actually use this Yoga DVD now! I read an excellent review of it over at Manic Mrs. Stone and I am excited to try it. I was just beginning a daily yoga regimen when I found out I was pregnant, but then I was just too nauseous to stretch or lean in any way.


Baby Boy Burp Cloths - Boutique Boy Burp Cloth Set - Blue and Green- Sweet Little Lad - Ready to Ship
ADORABLE Baby Boy Burp Cloths


Declan already loves to be all balled up in my belly and I'm betting biscuits that he'll be down for snuggling close to me during the day! This wrap appears to be the most versatile I've seen yet!
baby wrap by boba
THIS Grey Boba Baby Wrap
$48 HERE

THIS would make an ADORABLE DIY gift!
Great baby gift~

I'm absolutely terrified of giving a baby a bath. As a matter of fact I'm pretty sure that, like last time, my mother will bathe my baby for the first 2 weeks of his life! Unless.... I have this. I couldn't possibly hurt him!
Blooming Bath Baby Bath
Blooming Baby Bath
$40 @ Blooming Bath

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

That Time I Was a Pin Up Model...

I am beginning to feel down in the dumps about my baby weight. I believe I have reached that obvious point where I can tell (and everyone else can too) that I'm chunkin out in to a full womanly form. I know, I should have totally expected this... and although I did, it doesn't help. Sometimes the truth hurts!

NOTE: I believe every size is a gorgeous one. I think too often women are subjected to compare themselves to mass images of 'appropriate' size and shape. Honestly, I've not had to deal with it because I was always extremely small and underweight. Seriously, I've spent more time trying to gain weight than I have anything else. My goal/dream weight is 130. Still, dealing with not having a 'banging' figure for the second time in my life is harder this go around for some reason.

I have been trying to find ways to feel better about the whole ordeal and the first thing that comes to mind is what made me feel better the first go around. Quick backstory: I'm 5'7" and was 115 pounds when I was first pregnant with Aiden at 21. By the end of it, I had gained exactly the recommended 50 pounds and walked into the delivery room a plump 165. I never expected to be able to loose all of that weight and after 2 years of (not) trying, I settled in at 135... a weight I was actually extremely happy with. I was 'normal' and no longer plagued with glares in the mall or attacked with back handed remarks like "You're SO SKINNY... you make me sick!" followed by polite laughter as if it were meant to be a compliment. Although 135 took some getting used to (I had to sacrifice nearly my entire pre-pregnancy wardrobe and it seemed so much more) it was a worthy sacrifice to not be the focus of so many women's self hatred. something else - I was finally able to put the 'dream' of being an actual model behind me. There wouldn't be anyone who would want to take photos of me now. 

or so I thought

Enter Grant Beecher. Through a business transaction at good old State Farm (that's right, I sold insurance for 3 years) and then a meeting later on Facebook, I found out that he was a photographer. His newest fascination was for pin up photography. As chance would have it, he was in need of a model for a shoot that was in jeopardy of being cancelled. To my dismay he said I was 'perfect' in terms of weight and measurements... just think, have you ever seen a pretty scrawny pin up chick?


A week later and I was sitting in the bathroom with an unbelievable stylist being painted and curled. I was then transported to a speedway and posed in front of a couple of gorgeous classic cars. It was November and freezing cold (I believe like 40 degrees at best). We weren't there an hour. I was under the impression that it was a 'practice' shoot and nothing good was expected to come of it. I got a text message a few hours later that read "You're going to be famous." I laughed hysterically and put it all out of my mind. Then he sent me an email. Here is what was developed:

this image made it as the cover of his business card


RIGHT!?

My first remark was how obviously skilled Grant was with Photoshop! No stretch marks, no flab, no nuthin! Turns out, he didn't have to tweak these babies at all. Say whaaaat!? Needless to say, my self confidence came flooding back! Grant insisted that I put a modeling portfolio online and see where these shots could take me...
my first runway - Cavortress Spring 2010
I landed a couple of shows with Julie Wheat of Cavortress

She landed me a contract with an agency in Charleston, SC.


A connection at the agency landed me an audition for Charleston Fashion Week.

I was picked from 800 models to walk for Jamie Lin Snider's line JLINSNIDER.


CFW 2011
Okay, so I was actually back down to like 115 pounds for Fashion Week... and you know what? I caught hell! My agency was annoyed. I have to admit, I love being thin and scrawny... When you don't have to worry about certain areas looking badly or fitting in the right spot or being proportionate life is easier! However, certain times call for a fuller figure!

So here's to embracing my hips... and thighs, tummy, and chest! The key I've found is knowing how to dress yourself. So get ready, you ladies are gonna be seeing a lot of vintage '50s looks post baby bump!

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Christmas Fete

Oh my gosh! Heeeeeey! It's been, like, FOREVER!? Right!? Or so it seems... Sorry it's been so long. But alas, I'm back! Soooo, there's news!

I had a party.

anditwasa.GREAT.one





















I have this habit of buying clothing off the clearance rack with no regard for the size of the garment simply because I figure one day, I might fit in it. This gold sequined spaghetti strap top is a perfect example of that habit. I purchased the top from Urban Outfitters in Asheville, North Carolina for $6. It has been sitting in my closet for nearly two whole years. It's a medium and way too big on me to justify wearing in public... until I gots myself pregnant! NOW, it's a super cute mini dress that fits just right. The entire back of it is see-through, which I deem inappropriate for pregnant ladies, so I threw it on over a black cotton spaghetti strap dress that was close enough to the same length to get away with. Paired with my fave leggings and cardigan and VOILA! 

Holiday Prego Dress #2

And here are my lady friends:




I'll tell you, one of the perks of being in love with a chef is getting to eat all of the incredible food he makes. I hope our guests felt as spoiled as I did!








If you're interested, email me and I'll send you the recipe.

This was my contribution:

I got off way easy this year. Obviously.

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Pre-Natal Psht

Confession: I did not take a single prenatal vitamin during my first pregnancy. (and I'm not about to start now)

I just knew better for some reason. I'll admit, I didn't do my research (like you're supposed to) but I was extremely confident in my ability to feed myself appropriately as a pregnant woman. I was obsessed with our organic diet and all natural cleaning and bathing products. I also felt my age (ripe ol' 21) lent my breeding body more stability than older first time mothers that 'needed' help. Oh yes, and I had the help of a mother committed to informing me of my options. Here is evidence that I wasn't a fool:
my extremely healthy baby boy hours after his birth
However, being subjected to round two of every nurse, doctor, and nosey concerned women in my life asking if I had started taking prenatal vitamins set my already overwhelmed mind a flutter. To explain: I did not take responsibility for this pregnancy until the second trimester. Mostly because we weren't quite sure if I was prego or not but really we didn't even check because we were a bit scared of the reality. Couple that with a new, exciting, but barely 3 month relationship, intense therapy sessions, and bouts of intermittent anxiety freak outs... I just frankly thought I couldn't handle the truth. Then I felt so guilty that I did what seemed natural...I listened to the people who 'knew best' and I filled my prenatal vitamin prescription last week. I knew I hadn't been eating at all right the first trimester so in a moment of desperation I thought that maybe I could combat the pitiful eating habits of the first trimester with tons of mega vitamins for the second and third trimester. Though, I haven't taken a single one. 

Here is why.

1. My eating habits have improved. For the first trimester it was all I could do to remember to eat once a day. At a very unhealthy 105 pounds (I'm 5'7... so that's at least 30 pounds underweight) I had been taking steps to getting healthy again. I had stopped smoking, abandoned my whiskey obsession, and started sleeping. Next on the 'to-do' list was start eating regularly. That fact made a good argument for the vitamins. I could take them while I got on back on track. Seriously, I've been told (and read) that it's never too late to start taking prenatal vitamins. In that case, why is it not too late to start eating healthy? We left our first appointment (after finding a healthy 15 week baby) and headed straight for the grocery store. I stocked up on every variety of fruit and veggies I could find, our fave organic yogurts, crackers, nuts, and fish. I already knew that some nuts such as almonds and walnuts and certain types of fish like naturally raised salmon were excellent sources of Omega-3, a crucial nutrient for a fetus' developing brain. I've now found out that grass fed beef is another great source of Omega-3. Which I'm thrilled about.

2. This is what came in the bag with my Prenatal Plus Tablet prescription:

*and if I could take a "WTF Moment" here... why on Earth would something that is so healthy and vital for every pregnancy require a prescription?*

AND

*there was not a single list of the vitamins this drug is made  up of*


Accompanying these horse pills (that smelled terrible, btw) were not one, but TWO pages of instructions, warnings, side effects, precautions, warnings, and drug interactions.



I'm not one to judge, I am also certainly the first to admit my ignorance... but one particular line really ticked me off. After a list of side effects (constipation, diarrhea, rash, severe dizziness, trouble breathing... along with 'this is not a complete list of side effects') was this: If your doctor has prescribed this drug, remember that he or she has judged that the benefit to you is greater than the risk of side effects. Dude, this set my argumentative, confrontational, stubborn side on edge. (and this blog is proof, eh?) My doctor hasn't sat with me once to discuss my nutritional habits nor to my knowledge done any blood work to test for deficiencies. 

My concern is this. I've never been able to take a multivitamin because I literally overdose on some of the vitamins and they make me sick. What if I am getting plenty of nutrients from my 5 (well, at least 3) food-group stacked meals a day? Does the benefit of the drug (NOT vitamin according to the paperwork) outweigh the potential danger of overdosing my body... and my baby? One thing I've learned, just because it's a vitamin doesn't mean it's safe.

From what I've read so far prenatal vitamins are pushed on pregnant women for three major reasons: most don't get enough calcium, iron, or folic acid.

Here is where I've learned to get those vitamins. Fresh, raw, high quality vegetables are the best sources.

Calcium: dark green leafy vegetables, get plenty of sunlight & vitamin D as it can help with the absorption of calcium, milk, cheese (duh)

Iron: high quality grass fed red meat (there are other sources, but this one works for me just fine!)

Folic Acid: spinach, asparagus, okra, beans, green leafy vegetables

So I'm going to do more research and get back to you when I learn more. I should note I got most of my research from online sources such as Dr. Mercola, Wellness.com, and Naturopathic.org and that I AM NOT A DOCTOR. So do your own research, too.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

19 Weeks 2 Days

We had a healthy check up yesterday! Here are pictures of our precious little BABY BOY!

I just love looking at babies in the womb. They're so petite and chubby and their little skulls and bellies and hearts and bones and feet and hands... *sigh*. I can not wait to snuggle this little guy!

 So you've read the name "Vera Lizzbeth" on this blog... we were obviously hoping for a girl seeing as how we have 2 little boys already. Well, despite the faint disappointment I am actually quite relieved to be having another boy. The thought of raising a little girl terrifies me. 




Saturday, November 12, 2011

Ticked

Whatever happened to preventative healthcare? It seems instead of preventing the worst, modern medicine has become concerned only with stopping the existing. Just because bodies are able to be revived and medication heals does not mean that nothing should be done until something bad or worse happens.

I went to the ER tonight because of severe cramping in my lower abdomen. I'm nearly 4 months pregnant. I wouldn't have been too concerned except the pain was severe enough to conjure flashbacks of labor pains I had over 4 years ago. To my surprise, the on call OB-GYN was present in the room for barely 5 minutes only to press a few places on my belly and ask me "Does it burn when you pee?" "No" and "Do you have a history of cysts on your ovaries?" "No" and "Any discharge?" "No" and inform me when I cringed at one point, that the only thing there was an ovary. Then he left. I felt like I was being a complete nuisance telling him (as he was leaving the room) that the cramping kept me from being able to walk and had been ongoing for weeks and steadily getting worse over the past few hours. He nodded. I was appalled when he returned with a prescription for an antibiotic (it turns out I do have a slight infection) and a pain reliever to stop the cramping. I was stunned for a moment (I've never had a UTI) and once again I felt avoided when I had to stop him as he was leaving to ask if the pain reliever would hurt the baby and if he thought the child was even okay. "Yeah." When the nurse came in to give me the script and the release form I asked her specifically what the drug did. Annoyed she answered that it help stop the cause of the symptom and told us which door we could leave through. Stunned, we left. As I stood I doubled over due to the pain but walked out and tried to suck it up the whole way home thinking I was over-reacting.

Wait a minute. 

What the hell? What about the baby?! I didn't go because I thought there was something wrong with me. I was concerned about her. It's my body and I want to know. My healthcare is paying for this visit. I can't believe there wasn't an ultrasound performed or even simply a heart beat checked for (it's a friggin handheld device)! And the drugs? What if I don't want to fill my blood stream with a medication thats going to stop alerting me that there could be something wrong? Assuming that it is just 'severe gas', 'constipation', or a 'slight infection', what are my options for relieving the pain naturally? 

I came home, started the antibiotic, and then self medicated the cramps with a comfy couch and a ridiculous amount of water. The pain is still coming and going, not as severely though. I'm gonna hold the couch hostage until Monday and not take the pain relievers. The side effects were reason enough!

I'm calling a mid-wife Monday. I need some natural advice. And if the pain gets worse, we're headed to a different ER, just in case.

*Added Disclaimer: I'm SURE this bitch fest only applies to a select few local hospital staff. I'm a HUGE supporter of modern medicine and it's miraculous capabilities... just sayin, don't forget the thousands of years of knowledge we had before little bitty miracle pills*

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