Let's Talk About SEX

Actually, let's talk about intimacy. That's what I really want to understand more. I'm not sure if anyone will understand what I mean when I say I can easily have sex without being emotionally involved. Does that make me sound slutty? Or modern? Or like a douche bag dude? Ah well... either way, it's the truth. I've made it through 8 years of being sexually active without being particularly emotionally involved with whoever I was with... including a 5 year marriage. Sex was sex, man. Blame it on my mental super power to emotionally disassociated or the stint I spent as a pre-teen being abused, but it's just the way it is.

Until I met Brett. That's a whole 'nother story.

I went my entire first pregnancy without any desire. I was with my best friend and we had made a baby and we were satisfied. I mean in that way too... like for a year! But now I'm pregnant again but this time things are different. My relationship with my beau is much younger so the desire is naturally there but now we are incapable of connecting on a physical level. But I miss the intimacy that surrounded the act. I miss the before and the after... I mean like mad crazy miss it. I'm struggling to find a way to get near him despite our strict restrictions for baby's sake. We both seem to be at a loss, and I don't like the effect of the cause.

Any advice?